Significant men day

OK peeps, a quick fathers day post. Today is going to be freakin awesome for some and shit for some!

I know in my house over the years fathers day has invited so much misery into my home! There's so much love and pain that fathers can bring (because as we all know they too can be human, imperfect and not forfill our hopes!) So as well as bringing joy, this day can also invite anger, disappointment and letdown to the celebration! Do we really need another party like this?

A friend gave me a great idea a few years ago to try side track this in my house, as really all those difficult visitors are not really helping anyone create a fun, loving day! She suggested that I turn fathers day into "significant men day"

What a creative idea and relief!

It's so cool to know we can actually give ourselves permission to change these days in our homes to suit our families needs at different times (even if commercialism says differently!) We can honour and love all the men out there who are caring about the kids who's fathers have left, suicided, died, been violent, who have drug addictions and suffer from mental illness etc. We can honour these men who fill the gaps when our fathers cannot fill this role, for whatever pain or reason.

If we widen the idea of fatherhood to include all the men who have walked into our lives, who have helped shape us, teach us and who have cared about us in life changing ways, then maybe we can all truly celebrate this day in joyful and inclusive ways 💜

And if all else fails.. its spring .. Now that we can all definitly celebrate 😊